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One of the hardest things to do is to bid farewell to someone who means a lot to you. In fact, I try to avoid being emotional as much as possible because I can easily cry even though physically, people may think I'm tough. And so, I may not have expressed myself well in saying goodbye to someone who truly, deeply, means A LOT. I am not very vocal about my emotions, especially when I know I am no good in fighting my tears back. And so, last night, I considered it the longest "coffee break" I have ever had.
June 1, 2004 marks both our first day in De La Salle Canlubang. And counting the days (until last night) I must say, it was a long eight years with you ----  a damn good eight years filled with laughter and tears.  I can never forget my first day in the quite bare office, the breakfast sessions, daily lunch dates, partying on several occasions, exchanging sentiments (good and bad) and all the learning experiences shared with you. If I have to say THANK YOU …

bLaMe tRaPs

Blame traps come in different forms. Some of them are directed outward, as
when we blame others for our own failings; others are directed inward, when instead
of simply taking responsibility, we apply extension-of-blame thinking to ourselves
or give flimsy excuses for our blameworthy actions. Some reflect a fear of
blame. Others lead to paralysis and inaction. All involve a defensive deflection from
personal accountability and responsibility for one’s thoughts, feelings, and actions.

The Perfectionist Trap. Some people impose inflexible expectations,
rules, roles, and requirements onto themselves or others. And when people invariably
veer from these tight standards, the perfectionist is primed to blame.
In this world, even the slightest mistake can rise to a calamity and the blame
game follows. If you fall into this trap, start your exit by honestly evaluating
whether your expectations are expectancies, opinions, or hypotheses. Chances
are you’ll find that you are expressing an opin…

My First Love Letter

This is a repost from my friendster blog 2 years ago. I just thought I'd share it also in my blog page.I think I also need to repeatedly remind myself how I love my job!
A few years ago (a year or two that I started working), I remembered a teacher/friend who told me that when you find joy in something that you do it is most likely that you’d be spending most of your years in that kind of job. But, when I tell my friends that I do this kind of work (psychological testing) they’d usually be surprised and would ask me if I don’t get bored at all because in some ways, it is routinary. And I would casually tell them, “Hindi naman, masaya nga eh.”. You see, there’s a big difference (a big difference in my point of view) between practicing psychological testing in school and in the industry. Of course, when you work in private firms you usually do recruitment and you are faced with adults or applicants of the company you work for. In this case it really becomes a routine, …